Separation and Divorce
Separating from a long-term partner can be incredibly painful. If it wasn’t your choice to end the relationship, you can be left feeling like your entire world has fallen apart and it is hard to imagine ever feeling happy again. If it was your choice, the relief of no longer having to be with someone you no longer love can be overshadowed by feelings of guilt or doubt.
With therapy, you can begin to see this traumatic experience as an opportunity to create a better, happier life for you and your children. I can help with:
- Exploring your decision to end your relationship
- Dealing with painful emotions such as rejection, betrayal and bitterness
- Rebuilding a meaningful life without your spouse
- How you can support your children through your separation.
If you have children together, it’s likely you will need to think about how you can transition your relationship from that of spouses to effective and amicable co-parents.
As adults, it’s important for you to be able to manage your own emotions away from your children so that they can continue to have good relationships with both of you.
That’s often easier said than done.
Therapy can help with:
- Giving you a space to work through difficult emotions, on your own or together as co-parents
- Developing a new, respectful way to communicate as co-parents
- Setting healthy and appropriate boundaries to reduce feelings of resentment.
Blended Families & Step-Parenting
Family life can be hard but step parenting and being part of a blended family is a whole other ball game.
Often one or both partners have already been burned by separation or divorce and step-parents and step-children can often resent the presence of the other.
Minor disagreements can become blown out of proportion because really it’s not about the small thing but about appreciation, respect and boundaries.
- A more rewarding approach than waiting for your stepchild to appear grateful for what you do for them
- Managing feelings like rejection, doubt and anger
- Improving communication so that family life can be easier and less stressful.
A controversial subject and one that needs to be understood to make sure you aren’t inadvertently passing your pain onto your children (and even on to any future grandchildren).
As a therapist, I am able to provide you with a safe space to explore this topic without fear of judgement, whether you are the parent that might be alienating their children from their other parent or whether you fear your children are being turned against you.
Therapy can help you:
- Understand whether you are in a parental alienation situation
- Make better choices if your actions are hurting your children
- Manage your emotions in a healthy way to minimise the impact on your children
- Deal with the grief of losing your children